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Quote from: PPI Brian on February 22, 2018, 08:07:19 PMQuote from: PPI Tracy on November 10, 2011, 02:17:44 PM
Karl, everyone grieves in their own way and in their own time. No two people grieve the same.
It has been 21 years since my father died and everytime I hear the song, "The Living Years" by Mike and the Mechanics, I crumple into a ball of tears. Can't get through it no matter what. I miss him dearly, but I know that he is in a better place. At least that is what I believe. I also believe he is with me and can see me, even if I cannot see him. I know that he probably hurts everytime I do. Sometimes, it is just cathartic to do so. Sometimes it just feels good, in an odd sort of way, to cry my heart out. It's healing...yes, in an odd sort of way.
If you need to grieve, let yourself do so. Let yourself feel what you feel....until you don't feel it any longer.
I don't know how I missed this thread, and for that I'm truly sorry.
I agree with Tracy and Debra. There should be no expected time limit on grief. It's up to us to determine when we have mourned sufficiently, and society has no right to tell us what constitutes an acceptable length of time. Grief and mourning are never discussed in polite society. They are subjects of conversation that most of us avoid, and learning to deal with grief is a dark and uncomfortable place that nobody wants to venture. Grief is a journey that none of us want to experience, but we are bound by our human experience to find a way to accept the loss of loved ones and find a way to get back to "normal". We heal, and we find a way to go on and the pain lessens over time. But then, out of nowhere, it's right there in your face again. At least that's been my experience.
)Quote from: PPI Tracy on November 10, 2011, 02:17:44 PM
Karl, everyone grieves in their own way and in their own time. No two people grieve the same.
It has been 21 years since my father died and everytime I hear the song, "The Living Years" by Mike and the Mechanics, I crumple into a ball of tears. Can't get through it no matter what. I miss him dearly, but I know that he is in a better place. At least that is what I believe. I also believe he is with me and can see me, even if I cannot see him. I know that he probably hurts everytime I do. Sometimes, it is just cathartic to do so. Sometimes it just feels good, in an odd sort of way, to cry my heart out. It's healing...yes, in an odd sort of way.
If you need to grieve, let yourself do so. Let yourself feel what you feel....until you don't feel it any longer.